How InsecureHBO Has Become a Silent Therapist

How InsecureHBO Has Become a Silent Therapist

The Session We Never Knew We Needed


From the show’s first episode, black millennials have found themselves indulging in the hit show InsecureHBO. With its controversial topics, the plot has intrigued the minds of millions who revel truth and humor. Now that Season 2 has come to an end, Season 3 theories are on the loose and expectations for plot twists are high. Subconsciously, emotionally-invested viewers have displayed therapeutic behavior as a result of the show. Insecure has given young, black adults a reason to engage in dialogue, freely speaking about the insecurities and issues that exist within the show, themselves, and those surrounding them. While most arguments are usually gender-based, the show has allowed men and women from various walks of life to open up with one another about relationships, expectations, professional experiences, and of course, insecurities.

Forums and social groups to discuss the show have made their way across various social networks, allowing strangers to interact over relatable content. The influence of the show created international platforms in which individuals finally feel safe in expressing themselves without harsh judgment. They are aware that there will be others who resonate with their emotions and standards. Yet, there is the thrill of backlash and debates which trigger challenges in one’s thought process. In spite of all disagreements, everyone leaves with new perspectives instead of constantly seeing through their own lenses. They begin to open their minds to new possibilities.

When episodes end, they find themselves reflecting and developing theories that could create plot twists, while applying a dose of reality due to the show’s nature. There has yet to be a scene in which people find themselves saying “this would only happen on TV”. Okay, other than Issa’s mirror raps, what is shown is a norm for millions– the everyday lives of intelligent, young, black adults, struggling to manage their personal and professional insecurities.

We also find ourselves angry or irritated with characters because some scenarios are a close and fearful reminder of familiar people: others we know and the people we once were. There have been arguments regarding the lack of morals characters exhibit, but we all know that too many would leave us with mediocrity and a canceled show. We’re reminded of the mistakes and reckless decisions we’ve made on multiple occasions and constantly hope for characters not to do the same. 9 times out of 10, that is nothing more than wishful thinking. It’s as if viewers have the chance to see their current and previous lives in action, except they know how it ends when unscripted.

The ending of Season 2 gave viewers one of the most genuine, mature, and powerful scenes yet– a lesson in open communication and forgiveness. Some people attend therapy sessions due to a lack of closure, and the kitchen scene was just that– closure. Viewers openly expressed how tearful and emotional they became while Lawrence and Issa admitted their wrongs like adults, remained calm, and shamelessly acknowledged they still loved one another. This scene triggered mixed emotions for those who began reflecting on their personal lives and the closure they still long for. Others feel the scene influenced them to handle their own situations in a more mature manner, apologizing and mending recent relationships damaged by hurt and pride. The greatest moments in the show occur when viewers are so engaged, they see themselves and begin to reevaluate their faults; only this time removing ego and changing for the better.

From a different perspective, we can all acknowledge and commend Issa Rae for supporting fellow black producers, actors, comedians, writers, and all other production staff, new and experienced. Aside from entertainment, viewers are exposed to what black communities feel they’ve lacked for so long. The “crabs in a barrel” mentality is dismissed. There is excitement to see new and familiar faces, genuinely supporting one another with similar goals. If you haven’t taken note already, that is one example we can all follow in every aspect of life.

As long as this show exists, viewers will always find listening ears and a platform that exhibits and encourages progression. InsecureHBO is what many have longed for– content that is significant and intriguing to young, black adults. We finally have what should be defined as reality television (minus the scripts), because the scenarios are as real as it gets. It is the honest, self-evaluating, and thought-provoking content needed to correct miscommunication and heal damaged relationships between black men and women today. It is the silent therapist that keeps viewers engaged in an environment where they can be themselves without fear.